I wasn't really sure where to put this as while I am not a parent, I have taken on a lot of my mom's roles in my household while she is in the hospital (being the oldest of four) and figured this would be a good place to post my issue, seeing as a lot of you might have a better understanding of teenagers.
I have a part time job, so my hours vary GREATLY and I am not at home as often as I'd like to be, especially on weekends and such. So, I try to help out as much as I can by buying groceries when I am at work, fixing dinner when I have a day off, and when/if they need to be done, do chores in my free time.
This morning, I woke up to my dad doing yard work and my sisters reading/on the computer, but the kitchen was still a mess from dinner last night (I was at work until 10pm, or I would have done it then), so I started to clean it up. My sister, who is sixteen right now, started to yell at me when I started to put clean dishes away, saying stuff like, "OMG CAN YOU LET ME DO MY JOB?" "No one is asking you to do this!" and "WILL YOU GO AWAY?"
To be honest, I got a bit angry at her. If it bothered her so much that I was doing her job(s), why didn't she do it properly in the first place, last night? Why did she leave dirty dishes on the counter, unwashed dishes in the sink, a clean load in the dishwasher and drainer, and the counters/stove unclean? She is typically lazy and usually only puts in about 50% of her total effort into her chores and we often have to tell her to do it again (properly this time) or tell her more than once to actually do it. This is not the first time that she has yelled at me about doing chores either. Last weekend, she yelled at me about vacuuming the house, mopping, and other general all-house chores/cleaning, saying pretty much the same things.
I guess my problem is that I don't know what her problem is. What do you guys think bothers her so much when I do chores around the house? I honestly just see them as things that need to be done, because as I am sure you guys will agree, a clean house is a nice one to come home to, and no one likes seeing bugs and dirt all over the place. Might I be stepping on some boundaries that she made in her head of who does what in the house since my mom went into the hospital?
Anything you can tell me would be extremely helpful!